Couple Therapy

Relationships are complicated!

Married or not married, exclusive or not, preparing for next steps, breakups, separation, divorce, reconciliation, platonic, or even friend, sibling or other significant dyads… relationships take work and require skills that our culture does not necessarily teach us well. I’m here to help the two of you learn healthy communication and relationship-building strategies that can make being together more fulfilling- or dissolution more cooperative and productive.

Identifying relationship needs.

The truth is that not all relationships are meant to flourish. Therapy is no guarantee you will end up with the “happily ever after” you are seeking together, but there is value in knowing that and gaining the freedom to know what your needs are and seek a better match. Being a poor fit only means you’re unsuited to this relationship, it does not mean either of you is wrong or bad.

That said, we’ll start therapy by figuring out what each of you wants and needs from your relationship. I’ll help each of you identify the most important things you require from your relationship, as well as those things you’re unwilling to tolerate.

I’ll also provide you with some emotion and communication skills that will prevent your emotions from hijacking your discussions and foster a process for getting the most- for you both – out of your communication.

Then you’ll be ready to discuss what you need to do next to get you both on a path to lasting joy and satisfaction.

Talking is part, but not all.

While there’s a lot of talking involved, it’s not just talk! We’ll incorporate handouts, worksheets, games, guided conversations, and other exercises to make the therapy experience more interesting, memorable, and effective.

If you want to get lasting, positive outcomes from your therapy, each of you will need to be fully invested in the process. For example, giving every exercise a chance to work is the best way to identify the skills and strategies that build teamwork and bonding in your specific relationship.

The more tools we can add to your communication toolbox, the better equipped you’ll be to manage your emotions, communicate effectively, and work together to create a healthy and fulfilling relationship that extends well beyond your time in therapy.

Investment pays dividends.

If you both invest well in your therapy, you’ll both leave prepared to effectively create satisfying lives and relationships for yourselves whether as a couple or something else.

Once you’ve completed the therapy plan and demonstrated the ability to effectively use what you’ve discovered in therapy to succeed in the daily ups and downs of living, therapy will end.

You’ll be ready to take control, and I’ll be excited for you to do so.