Couples Therapy

Relationships are complicated!

Maybe your romance has turned into a constant battle, and you feel like you can never just enjoy being together.

Or possibly the spark’s gone, and you feel like there’s no romance left to enjoy.

Perhaps lying, cheating, addiction, or some other unexpected revelation has wreaked havoc on your – or your partner’s – ability to have trust in the relationship.

Build a lasting relationship.

Couples Therapy can be beneficial for couples in a committed, long-term relationship who want to make their relationship better.

Many things go into a good relationship.

The two that seem to come up most in Couples Therapy are mutual respect and good communication.

Better peacekeeper than warrior.

Wars have been fought over perceptions of disrespect between cultures. Lifelong feuds have evolved due to poor – or no – communication between families or neighbors.

Relationships between two individuals are susceptible to the same unhappy results if steps aren’t taken to show respect for the other person, to communicate your thoughts and feelings honestly, and to put in the work to resolve conflict with care and kindness.

And, yes, there will inevitably be conflict in any lasting relationship.

Identifying each other’s needs.

When you enter Couples Therapy, we’ll discuss what you want and need from your relationship.

I’ll help you identify those most important things that each of you requires from a relationship, as well as those things each of you won’t tolerate.

From this foundation, we’ll develop a plan to help you take control over the overwhelming emotions that get in your way and begin to work together to find ways to make your relationship mutually satisfying.

Talking is part but not all.

While there’s a lot of talk to Couples Therapy, it’s not just talking!

Therapy with me includes handouts, worksheets, games, puzzles, roleplay, and other tool-building exercises intended to make the therapy experience more interesting, memorable, and effective.

Also, there will be homework between sessions to help you practice and reinforce the skills and insights you learn when we’re together. For example, if we learn a specific skill in session, I’m likely to ask that you practice it every day until your next visit.

Investment pays dividends.

If you want to get lasting, useful results from Couples Therapy, you need to be 100% invested in the process.

Give every exercise a chance to work. Some activities will resonate with one of you more than the other. And there may be a few duds in the mix that don’t seem helpful to either of you.

But the more tools we can add to your toolboxes, the better equipped you’ll be to manage your emotions, communicate effectively, and work together to create a healthy and fulfilling relationship that extends far beyond your time in Therapy.

Time spent now builds a lasting relationship.

Once you’ve completed the therapy plan and demonstrated the ability to effectively use what you’ve discovered in therapy to succeed in the daily ups and downs of your relationship, therapy will end.

You’ll be ready to take control, and I’ll be excited for you to do so.